3 Easy Steps to Dating a Girl with Crohn’s Disease

Crohn’s Disease is a chronic illness which can affect any part of your intestinal tract; from the esophagus down to the intestines. Essentially, your immune system mistakes good cells for bad ones and goes on the offense. That’s right, your own body is attacking itself. How messed up is that?!

As there is no cure for the disease, only treatment options, the unpredictability and tricky unknowns of the illness can be quite the challenge for patients. Life becomes a bit more complex, a bit more complicated. As with any relationship, your partner’s problems become your own to an extent. Listening and understanding one another is crucial in the big wide world of relationships. But you don’t have Crohn’s! How can you possibly know how to deal with this stuff?! Don’t fret dear child! Luckily for you I’m here to declassify all of the top secret information you never knew existed. I may have to go into hiding after this article. Seriously, there’s probably a massive manhunt with helicopters and everything out there as you read this.

Let’s get started.

Assuming you got the guts (ha Crohn’s humor) to ask her out, and assuming she said yes, it’s time for your first date.


If taking the stereotypical ‘dinner and a movie’ route, restaurant choice could be a make or break.  Stay away from spicy food joints or your entire night could go to shit. Literally.

If your idea of a perfect date is a casual hike up a mountain, you may want to consult Lewis before embarking on said adventure. It’s a nice thought, Clark, but depending on the day it could be too much to take on; you don’t want to end up carrying your companion all the way back down.

  1. Don’t Plan Too Much

The Date Went Well! Congrats, I’m happy for ya. I know now you two are in that honeymoon phase and can’t stand to be away from each other and all, but try not to make an itinerary for your days together.  Because Crohn’s can be so unpredictable, it’s easy to be feeling like you could take on the world one day, then wake up the next not wanting to move. If she cancels your night out together last minute, suggest a Netflix binge instead. She may sleep through it, but knowing you’re there makes all the difference.

  1. Speaking of Being There…

Sometimes shit just happens. A medication stops being effective, a hospital stay is required, surgery is needed, etc.  She won’t ask you to stay with her at the hospital, or sit with her for hours while she receives her med through an IV. She doesn’t want to burden you, and knows these trips are no one’s idea of a good time. So when she tells you she can handle it on her own she means it, because chronies are tough cookies. But deep down she’s hoping you show up to hold her hand. (And maybe bring some snacks because hospital food is no bueno.)

So there you have it, folks. Everything you never knew you should know before dating a girl with Crohn’s. Follow these steps and you will be well on your way to a healthy(ish) relationship!

The Freshman 15 (Do’s and Don’ts As Told by Someone Who’s Done it All)

It’s spring semester; you’ve taken your SATs, finished the daunting task of college applications, and have officially checked out of high school. (Well, at least mentally.) Your severe case of senioritis makes it difficult to get out of bed in the morning, much less complete a five page paper on that book you never read. The only glimmer of hope is the shiny, almost blinding light at the end of the tunnel- college.


You’ve gotten plenty of advice- from your parents and siblings to that talkative stranger in the mall elevator- on what to expect your freshman year to be like. Lucky for you kid, I was pretty sheltered growing up. “Chasers,” “condoms,” and “cram sessions” were not in my underdeveloped high school vocabulary. My college jargon on the other hand, became rather vast within the first few months of my new found freedom. Unfortunately for me this freedom did not come with a warning label. As you will soon learn (probably the hard way because, c’est la vie) just because you can do it, doesn’t mean you should. Sometimes though, the great stories that come from questionable life decisions are worth it.

Here is your freshman 101 Survival Guide- 15 things you should and shouldn’t do.

  1. Speaking of Freshman 15…

What?! Chick-fil-A is in my cafeteria?! And I can use my meal plan?! While it may seem like a gift from the gods to have such deliciousness right at your eager fingertips, it may be in your (and your skinny jeans) best interest to pack a lunch every once in a while. What’s that saying about too much of a good thing? It goes straight to your hips? Something like that…

  1. Get your 30 minutes in

Classes are going to keep you busy, especially your first year. Make time every day for a little exercise. It will help relieve stress and keep that beautiful bod of yours bikini ready. This is college after all; you never know when you’ll be invited to a beach themed party…

  1. Take too many pics

These are the best days of your life! The times you will reminisce about as you’re sitting in a tiny cubicle wondering why you were ever in such a hurry to grow up. Document your experiences, heck make a scrapbook if you’re feeling crafty. Trust me you’ll be happy you did.

  1. …Okay but don’t, like, take too many pics

Some things you really don’t need to break out the camera for. I know that salad you’re having for lunch looks extra colorful today, but it probably isn’t anything worth sharing. Just enjoy your meal; your Instagram followers will thank you for it.

  1. Put down your phone

We live in the social media era, where “likes” and “retweets” come before actual face to face interactions. I mean, did you really go to that party last night if you don’t take a 300 second long Snapchat story of it?!  Unless you completely blacked out at said party, yes you were really there and no you don’t need an app to remember it. Disconnect yourself from the virtual world and be present in the here and now.

  1. Go to class

I know this may seem like a no brainer, but some days it will just be very difficult to find the motivation to attend a two hour lecture.  “The sun is shining, it’s too beautiful out to be stuck inside!” Or alternatively, “the sun is shining, it’s too bright and I’m too hung over to be a real person today.” Take some Advil, put on your shades and sit in the back with all the other students riding the struggle bus with you.

  1. Bring an apple to class

Okay, so maybe you don’t have to actually bring your professor a piece of fruit on the first day, but you should definitely introduce yourself. (*Please note, it is not recommended to attempt if number 6 applies to you)

  1. Don’t commit

Going from the small pond of high school to the wide open sea of college will expose you to all kinds of new fish! While you may luck out the very first time you cast your love rod, don’t call it a day just yet.  Your freshman year is going to be filled with new experiences as well as people, take this time to develop friendships and save the serious dating for later.

  1. Call your parents

Keep in touch with your parental unit on a regular basis, not just when you spend all of your grocery money on alcohol. Plus, surprise visits on the weekend are never a good thing. One minute they’ll be telling you how proud they are and the next you’ll be throwing up in the backseat. Take it from me, that is not the best way to show your parents you’ve made friends.

  1. Don’t stereotype yourself

Maybe you were starting varsity quarterback, or maybe you avoided school functions all together. Whoever you were in high school doesn’t have to be who you are in college. Put yourself out there and you’ll come to find you have something in common with everyone.

  1. Go to the pet store

I don’t actually have too much reasoning behind this one, other than playing with puppies will make any day a really freaking great one.

  1. Know your limit

If you’re anything like me, you waited until college to have your very first sip of alcohol. And, if you’re like me, that “sip” turned into 5 shots, 4 beers, and 3 friends carrying you home. If you’re new to the whole drinking thing, it’s best to take things slow. See how you handle your liquor before you agree to that ‘fifth and a friend’ party next weekend.

  1. Don’t feel pressured to make the big decisions

I know it may seem as though everyone has their entire future mapped out but believe me- they’re just as lost as you. Don’t stress about choosing a major right away. Take your time to discover what you’re good at, and what you like to do. (Other than beer pong, the job outlook for that career isn’t too promising.)

  1. Don’t have sex- you will get pregnant, and die

Ha! Just kidding. But seriously though, if you’re going to do the nasty with someone be sure to protect yourself, or it could literally get nasty down there. (Anyone else recall that STD photo reel from P.E.?) And although sex feels like how pizza tastes, my inner catholic school girl feels the need to mention abstinence is cool too.

  1.  Don’t take Do’s and Don’ts you read online too seriously.

Why are you listening to me anyways? Go out and make your own rules!